MD decided to play games with Munchkin yesterday afternoon. They played Chutes and Ladders. He won and she cried. We are working hard to teach her to be a good loser. Usually she's fine but this weekend she was around some little girls who cried when they lost games. She decided to try it. We let her know that crying because you lose is NOT allowed. You just try harder to do your best next time. But I digress. They played again and she won.
MD had never played Twister before. I should have warned him that it is not for old fogey types with no flexibility but I didn't know he had never played before. The hilarity that ensued was priceless. I was the spinner and called out the moves. MD cheated because he kept lifting body parts (i.e. hands and feet) to reach the more "difficult" positions. All of a sudden he calls out: "Argggghhhhhhh charlie horse! Munchkin you win" and fell over. I laughed so hard I cried. I was holding on to Squirm at the time and I had to squeeze her extra tight so I wouldn't drop her. Squirm laughed because I laughed. Family time is a great time!
Survey finds men from "traditional" households more likely to marry
June 23, 2004
EDITOR'S NOTE: The full report is available on the National Marriage Project Web site, http://marriage.rutgers.edu/publicat.htm. To arrange interviews with co-directors David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, contact Miguel Tersy, Office of Media Relations, (732) 932-7084, extension 616, or Theresa Kirby of the National Marriage Project at (732) 445-7922.
NEW BRUNSWICK/PISCATAWAY, N.J. - Men raised in "traditional" family households are more likely to marry than those from nontraditional households, according to a nationwide survey by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey.
Men from families with both biological parents present and who are religiously observant are more likely to marry than those from nontraditional and nonreligious backgrounds, according to "The Marrying Kind: Which Men Marry and Why." The study is featured in "The State of Our Unions: The Social Health of Marriage in America 2004," a report released today and issued annually by the National Marriage Project. Opinion Research Corp. of Princeton interviewed 1,000 single and married heterosexual males, ages 25-34, for the study.
Among the unmarried men surveyed, 55 percent from traditional households said they "would be ready to marry tomorrow if the right person came along," compared to 43 percent from other kinds of family backgrounds. Unmarried men who attend religious services several times a month, and those who say their fathers were very involved in their upbringing are more "ready" to wed than men who are not religious and whose fathers were not involved in their lives.
The survey also found that married and unmarried men from traditional family and religious backgrounds have more positive attitudes toward women, children and marriage.
"The findings suggest that the experience of growing up with both parents is an important factor influencing young men's desires for, and confidence in, marriage," said David Popenoe, a Rutgers sociology professor and co-director of the National Marriage Project.
The survey also identified a small but significant percentage of unmarried men who might be considered poor candidates for marriage. Two of 10 unmarried male respondents reported a low personal desire for marriage and displayed negative attitudes toward women, children and the institution of marriage itself.
These marriage-phobic men were more likely than other unmarried men in the survey sample to have come from nontraditional families, to be nonreligious, and to have fathers who were not involved in their lives, according to the survey.
"Young women often find the search for a marriage partner daunting and confusing, since not everyone in the partner market is interested in marriage," says Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, the project's co-director. "These findings may help marriage-minded women identify the men who are most likely to be the marrying kind."
Other key findings in the survey about men's attitudes toward marriage include:
94 percent of married men say that they are happier being married than being single.
73 percent of married men say their sex lives are better since getting married, and 68 percent say marriage has helped them become more financially stable.
Only 36 percent of unmarried men agree "single men have better sex lives than married men."
Two-thirds of all young men surveyed disagree with the statement that "the main purpose of marriage is to have children."
The National Marriage Project is a nonpartisan, nonsectarian, interdisciplinary initiative that provides information on social trends affecting marriage. Researchers analyzed a wide range of data for the report. Previous reports include, "Why Men Won't Commit: Exploring Young Men's Attitudes About Sex, Dating and Marriage" and "Who Wants to Marry a Soul Mate?"
A good laugh - especially for those from Chicago.
A Chicagoan dies and is sent to hell. He had been a horrible man throughout life and even the devil wanted to punish him, so he puts him to work breaking up rocks with a sledgehammer. To make it worse he cranks up the temperature and the humidity. "Love my kingdom!" laughs the devil.
After a couple of days the devil checks in on his victim to see if he issuffering adequately. The devil is aghast as he looks at the Chicagoan happily swinging his hammer and whistling a happy tune. The devil walks up to him and says, "I don't understand this. I've turned the heat way up, it's humid, you're crushing rocks; why are you so happy?"
The Chicagoan, smiling big, looks at the devil and replies, "This is great! It reminds me of August in Chicago. Hot, humid, a good place to work. It reminds me of home. This is fantastic!"
The devil, extremely perplexed, walks away to ponder the Chicagoan's remarks. Then he decides to drop the temperature, send down driving rain and torrential wind. Soon, hell is a wet, muddy mess. Walking in mud up to his knees with dust blowing into his eyes, the Chicagoan is happily slogging through the mud pushing a wheelbarrow full of crushed rocks.
Again, the devil asks how he can be happy in such conditions. The Chicagoan replies, "This is great! Just like April in Chicago. It reminds me of working out in the fields with spring planting!"
The devil is now completely baffled. Angry, and desperate to make hell really hell, he tries one last ditch effort. He makes the temperature plummet. Suddenly hell is blanketed in snow and ice. Confident that this will
surely make the Chicagoan unhappy, the devil checks in on the Chicagoan..
He is again aghast at what he sees. The Chicagoan is dancing, singing, and twirling his sledgehammer as he cavorts in glee.
"How can you be so happy? Don't you know its 40 below zero!?" screams the devil.
Jumping up and down the Chicagoan throws a snowball at the devil and yells, "Hell's frozen over!! This means the Cubs won the world series!!
At work or in school: I like set routines and organized ways of doing thingsl rules and directions are a great help to me. I prefer to stay on one topic at a time. I need to know what is expected of me, and I always want to know if I am on the right track. I like subjects that are useful and traditional, such as business, accounting, history and government.
With friends: I prefer people who are careful with their money and who make plans ahead of time. I like my friends to be loyal, dependable and on time. I am serious about love and show it in many practical ways.
With family: I like stability and security and enjoy traditions and frequent celebrations. I like to spend holidays with family members, and I plan ahead for such gatherings.
There is an emerging writer I know who sends emails to people on him mailing list with his current stories. His name is Ricky McKnight. He has a readership of mostly women and occassionally he asks us questions which he uses to base stories from. Recently, he asked why do women say "We have to talk?" Based on the answers he got, the following story emerged. Enjoy!
(Please note, I have posted the story in the same way it was received. I have not proofed for grammer or spelling. I'm not an editor just an interested reader.)
WE NEED TO TALK
(OH LORD I’M IN TROUBLE NOW)
I’ve had my share of conflicts with other men. I’ve been in my share of bad situations at parties. I have friends that have been in the army, some have even been in combat, and most men I know, or are even remotely aware of aren’t so afraid of spiders, snakes, lizards, rats, or burglars, that they won’t kill one to protect their home. But let his woman tell him (WE NEED TO TALK), and watch him fall apart. Those words are so bad that as soon as we hear them, we call our best friends for some sympathy. The conversation will go something like this. “Hey man, my old lady just told me we need to talk.”
“Aw man, what did you do wrong.”
“I don’t know. I can’t remember anything, but I know it’s something.”
The reason we fear these words is because they usually precede one of several very unpleasant sentences.
I’m pregnant (right about the time he’s decided that she’s not the one he wants)
My best friend saw you with that other woman last night.
We’ve been living together long enough. My best girlfriend said she talked to her psychic, and this is the time we should be getting married.
Our daughter is pregnant
I had a little accident with the car, and the driver of the other car is going to sue us.
Mother is coming to stay with us for a little while.
You forgot my birthday, or anniversary.
You don’t love me anymore because you (A. Don’t sing me love songs) (B. don’t bring me flowers) (C. Don’t rub my feet) like you used to.
I’ve been seeing another man.
I saw you with that other woman.
You know what you did was wrong but let me tell you how wrong it was.
I want a divorce
And then women don’t understand when their men tell them they don’t feel like talking. We don’t feel like talking because every time we hear this, we know that we’re going to end up looking like a deer caught in the headlights of a car. Totally shocked, and unaware of what’s about to happen to us.
Ladies, if you would like a better conversation with us, try saying these words as a preface to things like
I love you
I paid off the visa bill
I just want to tell you how much you mean to me
Mother has decided not to come
I want to make mad passionate love to you all night long (Oh yeah not that’s a good one)
Yes you can go out with the boys tonight.
I promise not to interrupt the big game with a “We need to talk” moment.
I caught you looking at that other woman but I’m going to let it slide this time.
My girl said she saw you flirting but I don’t pay no attention to her.
THEN WATCH HOW WE RESPOND TO THE WORDS
(WE NEED TO TALK)
Even if this story isn't true, it's too funny and on point not to post.
TOO HOT FOR ARIZONA CONVICTS ???
It's even hotter than usual in Phoenix, 116 degrees sets a new record, the Associated Press reports:
About 2,000 inmates living in a barbed-wire-surrounded tent encampment at the Maricopa County Jail have been given permission to strip down to their government-issued pink boxer shorts.
On Wednesday, hundreds of men wearing boxers were either curled up on their bunk beds or chatted in the tents, which reached 138 degrees inside the week before. Many were also swathed in wet, pink towels as sweat collected on their chests and dripped down to their pink socks.
"It feels like we are in a furnace," said James Zanzo't, an inmate who has lived in the tents for 1 1/2 years. "It's inhumane."
Joe Arpaio, the tough-guy sheriff who created the tent city and long ago started making his prisoners wear pink, and eat bologna sandwiches, is not one bit sympathetic.
He said Wednesday that he told all of the inmates: "It's 120 degrees in Iraq and our soldiers are living in tents too, and they didn't commit any crimes, so shut your damned mouths. "
I realize that I never blogged about my birthday. And I have no good reason. I received several well wishes and had a great time. First let me address the well wishes:
Happy Birthday Ayaba! Hope it's a good one cause you deserve it. Aren't good genes wonderful?!?!
Good genes are wonderful. I am blessed to have them and my birthday was definitely a good one.
30 didn't bother me as much as I'm worried that 40 will. There's a site out there asking the ages of bloggers. They've got one blog listed done by an 80+ year old.
I hope I am still blogging when I'm 80. I hope I have something to blog about when I'm 80. Well besides the damn kids walking on my lawn.
Wow !!! Happy Birthday. I hope it was all you dreamed of.
Welcome to your thirties, it's an interesting place
I didn't have any expectations for my birthday so it was great. I know plenty of people in their 30s. I don't know if I would call them interesting, mentally unique perhaps, but not interesting.
Happy Birthday to you. Hope your day was good as well as the next decade. Half way to 60!!!
I never thought about this being half-way to 60. I'm still focused on being young and cute and the "hip" mom. Why would I worry about being halfway to 60? What happens at 60? Arrgggghhhh! And I was doing so well with being 30.
Happy Birthday! Hope you did something really special for the big 3-0.
I did do something special. My mom put together a boat cruise on Lake Michigan. It sounds corny. Frankly I thought it might be but when your parents plan something for you, you are grateful and happy. The cruise was AWESOME!! We got a buffet lunch with the dessert tray from heaven. Munchkin danced and danced and the weather was beautiful. I have pictures to prove it.
Happy Birthday!!!! I remember my 30th! sigh.....that was many moons ago! and still going strong!!!!!
hope you made it memorable!!! Life is just beginning!
I hope I'm still going strong many moons from now. I thought life began at 40.
Happy Belated Birthday. I hope you had a wonderful day.
Thanks Carla! I had the best day. Turtle cheesecake instead of birthday cake. It doesn't get much better.
Happy Belated Birthday!
Thanks for thinking of me Ursula!
OMG! I'm so faulty! I missed your birthday! Happy belated birthday!
:::Go Ayaba, it's your birthday, get busy...:::
And nevermind about "30 dread". It's ALL about "Dirty 30!" :-D
I'll take all birthday wishes - belated or otherwise. I'll also accept gifts that way. :) Believe me, they played house music on the cruise so there was definitely a little "Dirty 30" going on. IT'S TIME FOR THE PERCALATOR!!
Last but not least, my wonderful mother had this to say:
30 years ago was a bright sunny day and I had given birth to the most beautiful baby girl in the world. And I haven't looked back since either. As I cried with tears of joy, I thought I could never be happier. And now that beautiful baby girl has become a beautiful woman and mother. I could cry some more! I am so BLESSED! I look forward to the next 30 years 'cause as you said, I've got good genes!
I don't have a reply. My mom gets the last word - as usual. Thanks again for the birthday wishes. I am truly blessed and hope to have many more!
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I received an email to send my congressional representatives a note on the new electronic voting system. While I believe that technology can make our lives easier we should all be aware of what's going on - especially when it involves our right to vote. Please take a look at the note below and if you are so inclined, check out the website.
I hope you will join me in signing this petition from MoveOn. It's about the new electronic voting terminals that are being installed in many states.
Too many are "black box" voting machines -- computer terminals that don't produce paper ballots. Without paper ballots, there's no way to know if our votes are counted correctly. Also, computers are vulnerable to malfunction -- how often does yours freeze up?
Every voting method should produce a paper ballot, so we can verify that our votes will count. Join me in calling for paper ballots, at:
The Owner/operators of this 18-wheeler are John & Amy Holmgren. They live in Shafer, MN. They thought this would be a nice tribute to the people that lost their lives on 9/11.
It has the name of each person that lost their life on 9-11. This concept was thought up by John and Amy, and totally paid for by them. John says he will be awhile paying the loan off that he had to take out to do it, but thought this was the least he could do. Applied Graphics in Fargo, ND did most of the work and Paul Kosenski did the Hand painting.
John said that he got to meet the Country Singer Darryl Worley, who Sang the song "Have You Forgotten" and has gotten pulled over 3 times by the police just to get their picture taken with this truck.
He attended the Mid America Truck show in Louisville, KY in March. Now for the pictures:
On a Continental Flight with a very "senior" flight attendant crew, the pilot said, "Ladies and gentlemen, we've reached cruising altitude and will be turning down the cabin lights. This is for your comfort and to enhance the appearance of your flight attendants."
"Thank you for flying Delta Business Express. We hope you enjoyed giving us the business as much as we enjoyed taking you for a ride."
"In the event of a sudden loss of cabin pressure, masks will descend from the ceiling. Stop screaming, grab the mask, and pull it over your face. If you have a small child traveling with you, secure your mask before assisting with theirs. If you are traveling with more than one small child, pick your favorite."
"Weather at our destination is 50 degrees with some broken clouds, but we'll try to have them fixed before we arrive. Thank you, and remember, nobody loves you, or your money, more than Southwest Airlines."
"Your seat cushions can be used for flotation; and, in the event of an emergency water landing, please paddle to shore and take them with our compliments."
"As you exit the plane, make sure to gather all of your belongings. Anything left behind will be distributed evenly among the flight attendants. Please do not leave children or spouses."
And from the pilot during his welcome message: "Delta Airlines is pleased to have some of the best flight attendants in the industry. Unfortunately, none of them are on this flight."
Heard on Southwest Airlines just after a very hard landing in Salt Lake City: The flight attendant came on the intercom and said, "That was quite a bump, and I know what y'all are thinking. I'm here to tell you it wasn't the airline's fault, it wasn't the pilot's fault, it wasn't the flight attendant's fault, it was the asphalt."
Another flight attendant's comment on a less than perfect landing: "We ask you to please remain seated as Captain Kangaroo bounces us to the terminal."
An airline pilot wrote that on this particular flight he had hammered his ship into the runway really hard. The airline had a policy which required the first officer to stand at the door while the Passengers exited, smile, and give them a "Thanks for flying our airline." Finally everyone had gotten off except for a little old lady walking with a cane. She said, "Sir, do you mind if I ask you a question?" "Why, no, Ma'am," said the pilot. "What is it?" She said, "Did we land, or were we shot down?"
After a real crusher of a landing in Phoenix, the attendant came on with, "Ladies and Gentlemen, please remain in your seats until Capt. Crash and the Crew have brought the aircraft to a screeching halt against the gate. Once the tire smoke has cleared and the warning bells are silenced, we'll open the door and you can pick your way through the wreckage to the terminal."
Part of a flight attendant's arrival announcement: "We'd like to thank you folks for flying with us today. And, the next time you get the insane urge to go blasting through the skies in a pressurized metal tube, we hope you'll think of US Airways."
It seems that these days the only way to get cheap gas is to eat baked beans. According to an NBC5 report - Cheap Gas Draws Motorists to Western Suburbs - it would appear that the suburbs are a good place for cheap gas as well. Would you drive all the way to fill your tank? I know I am!
Can't make it to the Western Suburbs, try Gas Buddy to find the cheap gas in your area.
MD and I worry about money. We want the best for our girls. We want to be out of debt. We want to travel. I wonder if our focus is misplaced. I got the following today and it made me pause. What are your thoughts on the subject?
Life is made up of choices. Our lives up to this point are an accumulation of decisions we have made. If we do not like where we are or what we have, we need to make different decisions. We need to make quality decisions about who we will serve. Will we serve God or money? Jesus tells us in the Bible that we have to make a choice between the two. We cannot have both. When we worry about money and how we are going to make it,we have chosen money. When we make a decision to let God's Word be the decision maker, we have chosen the way of heaven. Make no mistake about it, we will decide one way or the other. We need to make a conscious decision to allow God to be our provider and not ourselves. He has provided us with all we need to have a successful life. Choose wisely today. Choose to let God live His life through us and for us. When we do this, our lives will never be the same again.
This is right on target. Not only is Squirm blowing raspberries they are wet ones that no one is really appreciating.
If your baby's making rude noises, don't blame your neighbor's preschooler. Most 5-month-olds delight in adding new sounds to their repertoire, and blowing a raspberry is a perennial favorite. In fact, he may love it so much that he'll do it over and over again. That's normal, too. Most babies master one skill before they move on to the next.
(Courtesy of Babycenter)